Jul
24

Addiction: Moving Right Along!!!!

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Addiction: Moving Right Along!!!!

 

 Today’s post was inspired by The Muppet Movie and the song Moving Right Along as it speaks of the adversity that Kermit and Fozzy Bear faced on their travels but they just kept moving right along. This lead me to reflect on all the posts I read at www.addictsmom.com and in The Addict’s Mom groups on Facebook and I discovered that everyone has a similar challenge when it comes to addiction and that is dealing with the addict and the addicts behavior. As you face the challenge of having an addicted child you must understand that you did not create the problem, you can not control the problem, and you will not cure the problem and thus you should commit to moving right along. Now the question is how do you keep moving right along? The answer is accept there is a problem, face the problem, do the best you can with the resources you have, and understand that until the addict gets that rude awakening that their choices are not serving them in a positive manner they are not going to change. Once you begin to come to grips with the fact that your child is an addict and there isn’t really much you can do you will begin to have the ability to move right along. A recent study shows that 1 in 3 (33%) of families are dealing with addiction. Unfortunately because of the stigma associated with having an addicted child not many parents come forward to share and when they do many times they are ostracized from the community.  In an ideal situation a parent would recognize that their child was using drugs and/or alcohol and would be able to sit down and have a rational conversation about where the use of drugs and alcohol often lead and the child would have the where with all to understand that the parent is doing what is in the best interest of the child. The reality is that it doesn’t work that way because the parent is so concerned about being right and the child feels like they are being picked on that communication breaks down. Then there is the parental factor that you want your kids to like you so you give and give until you can’t give anymore thus putting stress on the parent-child relationship. Understand that most children lack the capacity to fully comprehend what is happening as the brain is developing and their judgment is flawed as the critical thinking elements of the brain have not been fully developed.  Think back to when you were a child and some of the things you did without thinking then you can relate to what your child is doing. Children tend to be impulsive and just do and this makes parenting very challenging especially when the child is not respectful and does things that are morally contradictory to the values of the family. The question is what to do and how to move right along?

Addiction:  Tools For Moving Right Along!!!!

 I have found gospel songs like this from Hezekiah Walker to serve as a great tool to move right along. Sometimes when we turn to scriptures and spiritual teachings we find that we can move forward as we understand that the answers are out there if we just ask the right questions.

Books such as these can be great tools to help you move right along as they show you that people do overcome addiction thus giving you hope that your son or daughter can change for the better.

 In many cases to move right along you need to change your attitude about the situation. This goes back to the idea of showing compassion and love without enabling. As a parent it is important for you to set boundaries from a young age and when those boundaries are crossed have consequences. Be consistent in your dealings with the addict, if their actions annoy you then let them know that. They will get defensive, they will try to point the finger at you, they will say hurtful things, they will make poor choices because that what addicts do. By understanding this and not feeding into this you will be able to move right along.

It is important to remind yourself to take care of you first. You are of no service and value if you do not take care of you first. If this means eating healthier, exercising, meditating, going to the spa, getting your hair done, taking a walk, or simply relaxing do it.

Addiction: Take Control To Move Right Along

 This week make a commitment to move right along by staying positive!!!!

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