May
08

Addiction:Love Is Thicker Than Water!!!

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Addiction: Love Is Thicker Than Water!!!

 

 This song was written and performed by Andy Gibb, who died of what appeared to be a heart attack on March 10, 1988. It was believed that his abuse of cocaine led to his heart failing. Andy Gibb was 30 years old. This got me to thinking when are we as a nation really going to take on the issue of drug abuse? When are we going to stop glorifying celebrities like Lindsey Lohan and those who continue to make poor choices?  When  are we going to begin to focus on prevention? If your child never started using the problem of his or her addiction would not be interfering with your life and having a negative effect on your other family members.

 Andy Gibb wrote about love however as you read interviews that he conducted you would see that he didn’t love himself and felt his accomplishments were minor. This could explain his turning to cocaine for like most addicts they turn to drugs because of their lack of self-worth. They do not believe they are deserving of the best and thus they get into a self-destruction  mode and one day they are gone. May parents reading this blog know to well the feeling of loss as they have experienced it first hand and when they hear these songs they bring memories of better times.  Tracking the life of an addict that is still deep into their addiction  brings many answers but also leaves many questions?

 Parents who are dealing with an addict know this cycle all too well and do their best to break the cycle. The question is how did this start? The answer is that your child was lacking a sense of belonging and turning to drugs gave him or her what they were seeking. The next question is why did it continue? It continued because they didn’t feel a need to stop and did not realize the problems their drug use was creating. In some cases what a parent thought was loving became enabling and thus never forced the child to fend for themselves. In some cases it was just the simple fact that it was easier to blame everyone else instead of being accountable for their actions. The question remains how do you break the cycle? The answer is you do not break the cycle the addict must break the cycle. When the addict is serious about recovery then and only then is progress made. You can not guilt your child into getting better, you can not continue to through money at the problem because that doesn’t help, you can’s make excuses as that worsens the problem. The best thing you as a parent can do is to set boundaries and keep to the boundaries. The worst case scenario is that you get that knock on the door saying your child is dead can you identify the body. This happens everyday in America and it is sad because in many cases the loss could have been prevented. The best case scenario is that the addict decides that his poor choices as a result of using no longer serve him or her and they make an effort to stop and get sober and remain sober.

 This week as you deal with your addicted child remember not to throw it all away. Do the best you can with the tools you have  and hopefully your child will turn things around.

Addiction: Tools To Show Love Is Thicker Than Water!!!!

   

I have often found quotes and sayings and art to be a great reminder that Love can conquer all especially when dealing with an addict.

   

Reading and applying the principles of the likes of Dr. Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson, Louise Hay, and others can help in easing the pain that is often associated with having an addicted child.

  

Support groups are excellent sources to remind yourself that love is thicker than water.

 

Prayer and meditation will often unlock the answers and make our journey more positive as you continue to remember that love is thicker than water.

 Keeping a journal can be a cathartic tool to express your feelings and to create a release.

 Exercise is an excellent tool to help you stay centered and grounded as you find that your love for yourself is thicker that water.

 

Addiction: Song Of Hope To help You See That Love Is Thicker Than Water

 In the coming days may you use this song of hope to remind yourself that love is thicker than water and that you are not alone in your challenge of having an addicted child. Love heals and provides hope.
 

 

 

 

 

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