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Addiction: Dealing With The Non Addicted Siblings!!!


 In 1979 Sister Sledge released the song, We Are Family.  As I began to listen to the lyrics I began to think we are all connected in one way or another.  This connection has been made stronger because of the website, which was started by Barbara Theodosiou, a mother who knew she was not alone when dealing with having addicted children. She developed The Addict’s Mom to give mothers of addicts a platform to share without shame, find resources, and to see that they are not alone. In visiting I came across a question, how do you deal with the non addicted siblings?

 The beginning of dealing with the non addicted siblings is to acknowledge that there is an addict in the family. One way to acknowledge this is to gather the family together and accept the fact that there is an addict in the family. At this family gathering it is important to formulate a plan of action to deal with the addict and all that are affected by the addict’s actions.

Setting boundaries is a very important step in dealing with the addict and your non addicted siblings. Believe it or not most kids want rules and regulations. It is when you set boundaries and explain consequences and stick to the plan that you can positively affect your non addicted siblings.

 It is important to talk to your kids especially the non addicted children. Take an interest in your children, know who their friends are, know what activities they are involved in, make it a point to show interest in your children. Remember you made a conscious decision to bring a child into the world and you have a responsibility to nurture and guide the child the best you can. Be aware they are going to do things where you will have to discipline them and make tough choices, Many times by being strict from day 1 and setting and sticking to boundaries you set in motion the behaviors that lead away from drug and alcohol use. The biggest thing you can do for your children is to speak to them and make time for them. The best words you can ever tell your child is I am here for you. This doesn’t mean financially it means emotionally and spiritually. Read More→

Addiction: Substitution Good Or Bad?

  It seems as in America the trend amongst doctors dealing with addiction is to subscribe to the philosophy of better living through chemistry. It appears that there is a supposed miracle pill for every ailment including addiction. The latest buzz in the addiction treatment field is Suboxone, generically known as buprenorphine and naloxone. It has become so popular that pharmacies are offering coupons for Suboxone.  Many argue that Suboxone is just substituting one drug for another and isn’t an effective treatment as it never truly gets to the root of the addiction. Others argue that it is very effective and that they have had great results.

 Dr. James Schaller is a proponent of using Suboxone and has written his findings in this book.

Many others on the other side point to the side effects and suggest alternative treatments. Read More→

Addiction: Love Is Thicker Than Water!!!


 This song was written and performed by Andy Gibb, who died of what appeared to be a heart attack on March 10, 1988. It was believed that his abuse of cocaine led to his heart failing. Andy Gibb was 30 years old. This got me to thinking when are we as a nation really going to take on the issue of drug abuse? When are we going to stop glorifying celebrities like Lindsey Lohan and those who continue to make poor choices?  When  are we going to begin to focus on prevention? If your child never started using the problem of his or her addiction would not be interfering with your life and having a negative effect on your other family members.

 Andy Gibb wrote about love however as you read interviews that he conducted you would see that he didn’t love himself and felt his accomplishments were minor. This could explain his turning to cocaine for like most addicts they turn to drugs because of their lack of self-worth. They do not believe they are deserving of the best and thus they get into a self-destruction  mode and one day they are gone. May parents reading this blog know to well the feeling of loss as they have experienced it first hand and when they hear these songs they bring memories of better times.  Tracking the life of an addict that is still deep into their addiction  brings many answers but also leaves many questions?

 Parents who are dealing with an addict know this cycle all too well and do their best to break the cycle. The question is how did this start? The answer is that your child was lacking a sense of belonging and turning to drugs gave him or her what they were seeking. The next question is why did it continue? It continued because they didn’t feel a need to stop and did not realize the problems their drug use was creating. In some cases what a parent thought was loving became enabling and thus never forced the child to fend for themselves. In some cases it was just the simple fact that it was easier to blame everyone else instead of being accountable for their actions. The question remains how do you break the cycle? The answer is you do not break the cycle the addict must break the cycle. When the addict is serious about recovery then and only then is progress made. You can not guilt your child into getting better, you can not continue to through money at the problem because that doesn’t help, you can’s make excuses as that worsens the problem. The best thing you as a parent can do is to set boundaries and keep to the boundaries. The worst case scenario is that you get that knock on the door saying your child is dead can you identify the body. This happens everyday in America and it is sad because in many cases the loss could have been prevented. The best case scenario is that the addict decides that his poor choices as a result of using no longer serve him or her and they make an effort to stop and get sober and remain sober. Read More→

Addiction: Why The War On Drugs Is Failing?

 This quote by Carl Jung explains why The War On Drugs Is Failing. It is that simple what you resist persists and tends to become a controlling factor.

     The war on drugs is failing because it is actually a war on society and people for many people in power do not want to solve the problem of drug abuse as it has become a big cash cow for them. Just look at this paradigm we are spending millions of dollars in Afghanistan to protect poppy fields which lead to drug production which leads to the destruction of people and thus allows those who wish to exploit others to stay in power. We are so busy fighting the war on drugs that we continue to create resistance and thus drug abuse persists. Think about it  when you found out your son or daughter  was an addict, what was the first thing you said?  You probably expressed a disdain for you were fearful and you began to ask what did I do wrong? The answer is simple you didn’t do anything wrong. If someone wants to use they are going to use. If someone wants to stop using they will stop using, however as long as drugs and alcohol are readily available there will always be abuse. By declaring war on anything you only make the situation worse. Read More→


Addiction: Stop The Madness!!!

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Addiction: Stop The Madness!!!!

by Jonathan Lederman – Media Director – The Addict’s  Mom

As I began to write this entry and research the concept of stopping the madness that is happening all around us I stumbled upon a website called Stop The Madness National,, and there was a message from President Obama about education.

 President Obama delivers a message about education in an effort to Stop The Madness.

As I explored the website I began to think these activities could be implemented by groups of parents to empower and inspire the youth of our country before they even start to use drugs or alcohol. Read More→

Addiction: Underage Drinking, Heroin, Bon Jovi:Things That Make You Say WTH!



As I began to research for today’s entry I typed in to Bing Addiction In The News and the first thing that struck a chord was Underage Drinking Still An Issue Across The Nation. This did not surprise me as this is something that has been going on for ages. The question is why do most kids under 21 choose to drink. Some say all my friends are drinking and I want to fit in, which is where we as adults must make them feel important and comfortable enough to not give into the idea of fitting in. Some of the kids will sy I enjoy it, it relaxes me this is where you begin to teach alternatives like meditation, exercise, journaling, and other ways other than drinking.


The fact that most kids who do drink start at age 12 really made me say what the hell, then I remembered the story of me at The Passover Sedar, drinking all the left over wine and instead of the adults stepping in and stopping me they all said look how cute little Jonathan is getting drunk. This is where the issue starts for most kids they are allowed to drink and then they do stupid things and instead of being held accountable for their actions they are encouraged.  The key is to look for the warning signs and then begin to communicate with your children. There were many parties in my youth where there was drinking involved and in many cases the parents were at the parties and they said go ahead and you can sleep over in many cases the parents bought and provided the beer. The parents allowed this to happen and then years later wondered why many of the kids had issues associated with alcohol use. There are those that say if we didn’t have a drinking age and if we didn’t make alcohol taboo that the incidences of alcohol related issues would decrease. The key is how you as a parent deal with the issue of your child drinking. The issue of alcohol use is quite complex because we tend to glorify it as stated in a previous blog entry. I personally stopped using alcohol at age 27 as my doctor informed me of the damage I had already done to my body and how the continued use of alcohol could further hurt me. I now go out and my drink of choice is water or unsweetened iced tea. Read More→


Addiction: Hey Brad Keselowski Stop Glorifying Alcohol!!!!

After Brad Keselowski won The Sprint Cup Championship he immediately alluded to going to celebrate by having a few drinks. This struck a nerve with me because he represents something that is truly ironic in our society driving a car sponsored by Miller Lite at a high rate of speed. Miller runs ads about not drinking and driving and then sponsors a race car driven by someone whose first word were there will be drinking involved and then the next morning he talks about not being as hungover as he thought he would be.  Some would chalk it up to his immaturity. Come on people the man is 28 years old and should know better as many young kids are watching NASCAR and look up to Brad and will justify their poor decisions by saying well Brad does it and he makes millions of dollars and won a Sprint Cup Championship. Read More→

Addiction: Football, Politics, and More!!!!

by Jonathan Lederman – Media Director – The Addict’s Mom –

As I watched the Philadelphia Eagles play The New Orleans Saints on Monday Night Football last night (11/5/12) the commentator alluded to the fact that Andy Reid, the head coach of The Philadelphia Eagles, may have been affected by the death of his son Garrett. Garrett Reid was found dead of a heroin overdose at The Eagles facility during training camp. Garrett had been dealing with his addiction and making progress and become the strength coach for The Eagles until an overdose took him from this earth. I started to think yes Andy Reid has been affected by his son’s death and with his platform as a head coach in The NFL can use his clout to bring awareness to the issue of addiction and the devastating effects it has on a family.

 I have read so many stories on The Addict’s Mom Website,, and in the various Facebook groups about those lost to addiction. I believe we all need to come together and share and encourage others to share. Through sharing perhaps we can help other families to avoid the trials and tribulations of having an addicted child. The answers are not simple however they can be found through sharing without shame as together you are stronger and reminded that you are special. Many times addiction is like a football game as you scrap for every inch trying to score a touchdown in your life and win in the end. the touchdown is the recovery process and the win is seeing the loved one become clean and sober. How many Garrett Reid’s are we going to have to bury until our society wakes up and says we need a new approach to eliminating drugs and alcohol from our culture.


You know the 1st 2 photos however many may not know the 3rd. That is Gary Johnson The Libertarian Candidate for President. This brings us to the way we can change the way that the issue of addiction is handled. We can get out and vote for the person who will fund programs and who will really focus on the ideas of prevention and recovery. There are many programs that need funding that we as a population regardless of who we support need to start addressing. Instead of  complaining take action and write to you congressmen and congress women and share your story and the fact that you are asking for more funding to be dedicated to the pandemic that has become addiction in our country. Ask them how many more lives have to be shattered before we all wake up and do something. We are spending so much supporting foreign interests when we need to be supporting those at home first especially those suffering from addiction. I strongly recommend that after the election we flood the offices of all elected officials with an onslaught of snail mail encouraging them to do something about the pandemic that is robbing our country of talented young people known as addiction.

Addiction: Resources For The Family of An Addict

So your son or daughter is an addict and still living the life of an addict. Do not fret as you are not alone as many parents are going through the same pain that you are experiencing. There are many places to turn such as The first thing to do is come out of the dark and accept the fact that your son or daughter is an addict and you are simply powerless until they decide they want to be clean and sober and free of their addiction.  The following are some resources that you can use to help you and your family in the process of meeting the challenges of having an addicted family member.



You can read books and apply what you learned. You can carry medallions and stones to help you cope. You can attend meetings. One major component of dealing with the fact that your son or daughter is an addict is to take care of yourself first and be in tune with the others in the family that may be in pain as a result of the addict’s actions.

 As I was searching for content for the blog today (11/6/12) I came across this photo of a pin that was introduced in September during National Recovery Month.  Remember you can support the addict’s road to recovery by setting boundaries. It is my hope that your son or daughter will put down the drugs and alcohol and turn their life around before it becomes to late. If you losed someone to addiction you can share their story in hopes that it will resonate and stop another person from evening starting with drugs and alcohol.

I found a few videos that I believe will help you in your quest of meeting the challenges you face with having an addicted child.

May you continue to be filled with peace, love, and happiness as you show the courage to come out and say I am the Mother or Father of an addict.




Addiction: Addiction and 9-11; The Recovery Process

 It was 11 years ago today when the tragic events of  9-11 occcured. As I sat to write this post I began to think how the events of 9-11 and the recovery process parallel the stages of an addict and a family in recovery. I begane to think forst there is acceptance that something bad has happened or is happening, then there is the realization that you need help to recover from these events, and at the end you are triuphant as you move forward in a path to recovery.

 As people came out of the rumble and began to help one another there was sense of togetherness that came over our country, people were a bit nicer to one another and began to help eachother. It is a shame that it takes tragic events to bring people together, howver when people share a similar experience they are more apt to come through it and recover. With addiction it takes the family and friends to pull together and help the addict come through the recovery process. This will not be easy as itr hasn’t been easy for all theose affected by 9-11, however by taking the first step toward recovery people will be healed and will be able to let go of the past and move forward. Read More→


Addiction: Understanding The Addict

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Addiction:Understanding The Addict

by Jonathan Lederman- Media Director- The Addict’s Mom

 When you look at this photo ypu will see that the normal brain has all the synapses in place designed to function and deliver messages properly where ase the addict’s brain has several holes and thus the messages are skewed as the processing center has been damaged. The addict turned to drugs and alcohol for many reasons and to understand the addict you must understand how their primordial brain acts and how their ID and Ego interact.  An addict may feel that they are unloved or picked on and thus turned to drugs and alocohol as an escape or to find acceptance.

Wikipedia defines addiction as follows

Addiction is the continued use of a mood altering substance or behaviour despite adverse dependency consequences,[1] or a neurological impairment leading to such behaviors.[2]

Addictions can include, but are not limited to, alcohol abuse, drug abuse, exercise abuse, and gambling. Classic hallmarks of addiction include: impaired control over substances/behavior, preoccupation with substance/behavior, continued use despite consequences, and denial.[3] Habits and patterns associated with addiction are typically characterized by immediate gratification (short-term reward), coupled with delayed deleterious effects (long-term costs).[4] Physiological dependence occurs when the body has to adjust to the substance by incorporating the substance into its ‘normal’ functioning.[5] This state creates the conditions of tolerance and withdrawal. Tolerance is the process by which the body continually adapts to the substance and requires increasingly larger amounts to achieve the original effects. Withdrawal refers to physical and psychological symptoms people experience when reducing or discontinuing a substance the body had become dependent on. Symptoms of withdrawal generally include but are not limited to anxiety, irritability, intense cravings for the substance, nausea, hallucinations, headaches, cold sweats, and tremors. Read More→