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16

Addiction: Taking Steps Of Hope!!!

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Addiction: Taking Steps Of Hope!!!!

 

 As I was sitting down to plan a special event to help mothers of addicted children, Steps Of Hope, I came across this song and thought yes it is time for us to do something. It is time for us to unite and come together to remove the stigma of having an addicted child. It is time for us to band together and show that addiction is affecting us all and that it can be overcome. It is time for us to take steps of hope.

On May 17, 2014 in my hometown of Davie, FL from 10 AM – 12:30 PM I will be hosting Steps of Hope and bringing people together to share without shame in hopes of positively impacting the lives of those affected by addiction.  Each day I take steps of hope by running The Addict’s Mom Facebook Group and overseeing www.addictsmom.com. Read More→

Addiction: Love Is Thicker Than Water!!!

 

 This song was written and performed by Andy Gibb, who died of what appeared to be a heart attack on March 10, 1988. It was believed that his abuse of cocaine led to his heart failing. Andy Gibb was 30 years old. This got me to thinking when are we as a nation really going to take on the issue of drug abuse? When are we going to stop glorifying celebrities like Lindsey Lohan and those who continue to make poor choices?  When  are we going to begin to focus on prevention? If your child never started using the problem of his or her addiction would not be interfering with your life and having a negative effect on your other family members.

 Andy Gibb wrote about love however as you read interviews that he conducted you would see that he didn’t love himself and felt his accomplishments were minor. This could explain his turning to cocaine for like most addicts they turn to drugs because of their lack of self-worth. They do not believe they are deserving of the best and thus they get into a self-destruction  mode and one day they are gone. May parents reading this blog know to well the feeling of loss as they have experienced it first hand and when they hear these songs they bring memories of better times.  Tracking the life of an addict that is still deep into their addiction  brings many answers but also leaves many questions?

 Parents who are dealing with an addict know this cycle all too well and do their best to break the cycle. The question is how did this start? The answer is that your child was lacking a sense of belonging and turning to drugs gave him or her what they were seeking. The next question is why did it continue? It continued because they didn’t feel a need to stop and did not realize the problems their drug use was creating. In some cases what a parent thought was loving became enabling and thus never forced the child to fend for themselves. In some cases it was just the simple fact that it was easier to blame everyone else instead of being accountable for their actions. The question remains how do you break the cycle? The answer is you do not break the cycle the addict must break the cycle. When the addict is serious about recovery then and only then is progress made. You can not guilt your child into getting better, you can not continue to through money at the problem because that doesn’t help, you can’s make excuses as that worsens the problem. The best thing you as a parent can do is to set boundaries and keep to the boundaries. The worst case scenario is that you get that knock on the door saying your child is dead can you identify the body. This happens everyday in America and it is sad because in many cases the loss could have been prevented. The best case scenario is that the addict decides that his poor choices as a result of using no longer serve him or her and they make an effort to stop and get sober and remain sober. Read More→

Addiction: Don Miguel Ruiz Turns Lives Around With Four Agreements!!!

 

As I read the stories in The Addict’s Mom Facebook Groups and at www.addictsmom.com I began to think what one tool could I give to the mothers of addicts that may assist them with their struggle? The answer came in the form of Don Miguel Ruiz’ book, The Four Agreements. The four agreements is based on Toltec Philosophy.  As I looked at each agreement I began to think that every mother of an addict should have a copy of the book and every addict should have a copy.  If the addict truly wants recovery and the joys of being drug and alcohol free he/she will make an effort to follow the four agreements. These agreements are made by the individual to themselves so as to have a greater connection to GOD and thus begin living the life that GOD intended. If you work on these agreements with the addict when they are ready to receive and take positive action to improve their life you will begin to see improvements in your relationship with the addict. Read More→

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